[:falling in love:] • Falling in love • When people fall in love with another, because they associate that experience with the other, they think that the experience comes from the other • This is wrong! • The love comes from oneself; the other is the vessel through which it flows: we find a space in the other where we can are safe and can be vulnerable, can play; the inner infant (subconscious?) is able to come out. • The other person lets us "[find] a pathway to our own essence"